Everything that happens has an impact on something. For every cause there is an effect. So does how one responds to the “things” that happens in one’s life accurately reflect whether that someone/something is useful? strong? weak? right? wrong? If we are impacted by the events of life, by the people that we encounter, by the individual choices we make or others make for us, surely that defines who we become. Somewhere along the way I think we let these “definitions” have too much power over WHO we are (or think we are). I have started to realize that I have allowed “definitions” to dictate how I respond, or how I feel about my responses. I have allowed things to have power that they were never meant to have. All because of how “someone” defines how I should or should not respond, behave, feel, etc. What I feel may be quite different then what you feel. What I experience may be quite different then what you experience. I may see the glass half empty. You may see the glass half full. I may not know what it is like to struggle with drugs. You might not know what it is like to struggle with weight. None of this makes the individuals feelings less valid. It doesn’t make the view, opinion, feeling right or wrong.