Lessons I learned (and keep learning) : Not everything that offends, hurts my feelings or makes me mad is wrong
Let me explain: I won’t always like everything I hear or see or happens around or to me. And it won’t always be that it’s wrong , mean, hurtful, etc. that the other person needs payback or consequences, my wrath, etc
Sometimes it is that it struck a cord of truth and maybe I am supposed to learn from it. Maybe I am supposed to glean, sift through , discarding some but not necessarily all.
Deeper still: sometimes it’s the things that ruffle my feathers the most that if I look close enough may be designed to reveal a character defect in me. Maybe I do something similar. Maybe I am (gasp) not perfect, guilty of my own offenses and wrongs too.
I share this to say I am learning to stop being Debbie Downer, stop being SuZie Stress-outer, stop being Wendy Whiner , or Connie complainer ! 👍 you get the point
I am learning to take a 10 second window, to exam what just happened and dissect it, exam the teaching, the word, the action – what ever it is and see what truth could be held there, what does the word say? What do I need to learn from it? What do I need to allow to change me and what do I need to let go?
Results: I am a much happier person then the one that feels like the world is set to hurt me, finding offense at every turn, hopping around from church to church or job to job or friendship to friendship waiting for the perfect place. I am learning that an imperfect place stretches me – I am an imperfect person surrounded by imperfect people and that pushes me into a deeper place with my creator. When I ask to see every single thing through His eyes I can start to see the hurt place that may have prompted someone else’s actions or attitudes – it doesn’t by any means justify it or make it right but it does allow me to see them as He does and to see how I can react instead of act similar at times. It allows me to push closer, to extend and receive forgiveness and grace. Less prideful response from me means more of Him. The result for me is a much happier life. By far not perfect but happier and blessed -and bonus – I’m way less co dependent then ever before but that’s a thought to share another time
Hope this lesson touches someone else too
Thanks for letting me share